Scandarella's 2018 Sexy Bucket List Suggestions
Things to do before you’re thirty. Cities to visit before summer ends. Movies to see before you die. We’ve all heard of these kinds of bucket lists and many of us will have written our own versions of them at one point or another. I know I’ve written a few in my time but the only one I’ve ever managed to complete has been all about sex.
Yep, every time January 1st rolls around I write a sexy bucket list. It helps me remember things I want to try, be they sex positions, sex toys, or fantasies. Here’s a list of ten things that have featured on my lists in the past. Pick your favorites from Scandarella’s 2018 Sexy Bucket List Suggestions and use them as a foundation for your own bucket list.
One of the hottest sex acts a couple can do together is mutual masturbation. Pleasuring ourselves is as natural as breathing, but a lot of us can still feel a little self-conscious when it comes to doing ourselves in front of another person. The thing is, if you’ve done enough self-exploration, you’ll know all of your own buttons like the back of your hand. Where to touch, how to touch, how hard or soft or quick or slow.
A brilliant way of teaching your partner what you want without going as far as giving them a sex-ed lesson is to show them. Touch yourself and encourage them to touch themselves at the same time. Not only will you both learn how to give it to each other the exact way you like it, but you’ll also get your own private performance from the one you want it from most.
Do It Like the Movies
Does the pottery gone bad scene in Ghost raise your temperature? How about the feeder scene in 9 ½ weeks, or the over the desk one in the Secretary? Whichever sexy sequence floats your boat why not try re-enacting it with your partner? Not only does this have the potential to get you some fantasy sex without having to use much imagination, but it’s also a great way of finding out what each other really wants in the bedroom.
Let’s Go Outside
Blow Hot and Cold
Look, Ma, No Hands!
A great thing to add to your sexy bucket list is giving your partner – or indeed yourself – a hands free orgasm. No, I don’t mean with the power of your mind (though if you can do that, call me – lol). I mean with a sex toy. There are so many toys out there with the power to deliver an orgasm while both the giver and receiver are completely still and not touching each other.
Mains powered wands can achieve this easily, as can the Hot Octopuss Pulse and Queen Bee. If you’re feeling bold you could even take this one into forced orgasm territory. That’s one you’ll either love or hate, but wouldn’t you love to find out either way?
Long Distance Loving
Do you and your partner live apart? Maybe a city away, or a whole continent? Maybe they work away, or they might work hours that mean you don’t get to be in bed at the same time. If this is you, a great addition to your list would be using an app-controlled toy together.
Once upon a time toys like this were mostly love eggs, and you had to be at least in the same room as each other to make them work. But now you can pick up a butt plug, or a rabbit, or a masturbator, give it to your partner and then control it from wherever you are via a simple app on your smart phone. One of the most fun things I’ve ever done was have my partner control my vibrator from work. The excitement of knowing he was in a room full of people, looking like he was sending innocent messages when he was really giving me an orgasm…it was intense!
Round Peg, Round Hole
Tie Me Up In Knots
With this final suggestion I’m giving you a cheeky peek into my own sexy bucket list for 2018. What is it I want to try?
Japanese rope bondage that looks so beautiful you could almost forget that it’s bondage. I’m no stranger to restraint – or even rope – but my partner isn’t artistic with his wraps and knots. I get rope coiled around me and secured effectively but simply. I want to be incapacitated but pretty with it, and Shibari looks like an awesome way to achieve this. We’re definitely giving it a go. Why don’t you?